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butterfly
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 Lindsey's story - 2005/07/05 16:39 As a young child my mother divorced my father to marry a drug dealer when I was three. Things were actually better off this way before she meet his JW sister. After he cheated on her she took steps to become a JW. It started off slowly with my mother changing her wardrobe and throwing away many great records and tapes. Then started the casting off of her 'worldly' friends. We moved to a small town an hour away from my father when i was six which made visiting him difficult at times. Our visitations were every other weekend. He had no idea the kinds of things that were happening to me.
My mother started becoming fanatical about the religion. She used her pioneering as an excuss to use me as a slave around the house. Before i was seven i was doing all the cleaning and cooking. Then started the beatings. The first occurred when i failed to finish the dishes by 8:00. I instead had them completed by 8:01. The second was when i was caught looking at the horoscope page in the newspaper. She called it 'demonic' and rendered me unconcious. When ever i was caught lying or behaving unchristian (or like a child) like she started locking me in a basement room for long periods of time. At one point i made her so angry with a comment i made at a meeting (misquoting a scripture) that when we got home she took off her shoe and beat me in the head with the heel.
By the age of 13 mother had remarried and moved back to the city that my father lived in. However at this time my mother had forced me to get baptized and start auxilary pioneering. The arguments between my mother and i started. She would have her elder husband intervene by throwing me down the basment stairs and holing the door shut so i couldn't escape. She then removed all the phones from the house when she wasn't home so that i could not call my father. every time i came close to escaping or telling someone she would tell me that i would lose all my friends because no one would believe me. she have convinced everyone in our congregation that i was a compulsive liar plus my step father was one of the elders and it would never make it past him.
I lived in fear for most of my childhood. I then moved in with my father at 15. All of my JW 'friends' stopped talking to me. The people who were there to pick up the pieces were my 'worldly' friends who were all suposedly evil and not really people at all.
My life greatly improved. My father is an athiest who is currently helping me get through college (which is of coure looked down upon by JW). Even though i have not been disfellowshipped i might as well be. No one will talk to me and my mother rarely ever contacts me without wanting to destroy my life in some sense. She at one point managed to turn most of my family against my telling them that i was a heroin addicted lesbian thief. It took years for them to realize that she was the liar and not i.
It doesn't make me sad to think of the friends i lost anymore. Thier false friendship taught me much about myself and the world. I'm very happy now. The way it should be.
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Walrus
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 Re:Lindsey's story - 2005/07/05 16:48 I hope you are happy now, Lindsey. Call me sometime soon. I will tell you more what I think then.

-Walrus
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butterfly
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 Re:Lindsey's story - 2005/07/05 16:52 since i am now working 60 hours a week until school starts up again.... i'll try to call you on sunday night after i get off at 6. did i tell you that i saw vicky? She hasn't spoken with her father in 3 years now that she's been disfellowshipped. talk to you soon!
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Myndlon
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 Re:Lindsey's story - 2005/07/05 19:41 Greetings.

I certainly do hope that you haven't given up on God because of the poor experiences. I worry about this because your references were more concerning the JWs than God. You also comment on the 'worldly' quite favourably. Of course, I am one that would be (and am) classified as worldly by JW standards, so I do realize that this is not necessarilly bad.
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Epignossis
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 Re:Lindsey's story - 2005/07/05 21:24 Hey Butterfly welcome to Beth Sarim - thank you for sharing your story. It is very sad to see these events playing out over and over again and so many young minds being devasted.

I hope you find this a place of refuge and one where you feel connected to your true brothers and sisters

ePig Knowledge puffs up, but love builds up. If anyone thinks he has acquired knowledge of something, he does not yet know it just as he ought to know it. But if anyone loves God, this one is known by him - 1 Cor 8:1-3
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polemotheos
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 Re:Lindsey's story - 2005/07/06 04:17 butterfly,
Your story would give anyone nightmares. I am so glad you have hatched from that cacoon.

My families story starts off very similar. But only in this respect my mom actualy did change for the better. She was easily "angry, mean, kussed, etc." but all that slowly changed. As for me doing the dishes. Yeah I had to do them, but I was always slow as heck. I always played space ship with them. My imagination was and is too active for my mom to expect me to do them in one minute. (haven't played space ship in a while) Another factor is that it is probably not as easy to punk someone twice your size.

At any rate sorry to hear how spiritually small your mom has demonstrated to be. And glad to have you in our humble forum.

Mars

ps. no laughing at the my space ships Your Peace, Surrender, In You,
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